I sat in the back of the stands to avoid the bullshit at school games. It was awful. Sure was fun to watch but the parent pettiness was awful. She went on to play D1 volleyball. She’s 6 months into her career and called me the other day to thank me for teaching her work ethic. Already kicking ass in her new job but said most kids her age don’t give a shit and barely do the required...much less any extra to get ahead. Best phone call ever.I was a D3 basketball player and my wife was a D1 volleyball player. We have two teenage boys that are both currently 6’9. One a junior and one a freshman. Both are heavily involved in basketball and my youngest also is a left-handed pitcher. My oldest was also a good baseball player but suffered a career ending arm injury two years ago so he is basketball only now. He is being recruited and will play in college. Both are heavily involved in AAU basketball as well as the younger still being on the travel baseball scene.
in my experience the pettiness and parent bullshit was much more prevalent at the younger ages. As the kids get older that stuff for the most part goes away. When they get into the high school years success is generally merit based at the higher levels of competition (AAU Basketball or higher level travel baseball). I’m sure there are exceptions to this but in my experiences parent bullshit mostly goes away as they get older and more competitive.
School sports on the other hand are a breeding ground for parent problems because generally petty jealousies and perceived slights still factor in because parents of the lesser talented kids are jealous and feel slighted because they want their shittier kids to be successful and noticed like the kids who have worked 5 times as hard.