• Pat Flood (@rebarcock) passed away 9/21/25. Pat played a huge role in encouraging the devolopmemt of this site and donated the very first dollar to get it started. Check the thread at the top of the board for the obituary and please feel free to pay your respects there. I am going to get all the content from that thread over to his family so they can see how many people really cared for Pat outside of what they ever knew. Pat loved to tell stories and always wanted everyone else to tell stories. I think a great way we can honor Pat is to tell a story in his thread (also pinned at the top of the board).

So I’m about to start my coaching job this afternoon:

First day on the job:

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Remember, today is not the day to win their friendship. Today is the day to lay down the law and expectation that you are the alpha and to be respected.

Any shit you tolerate today will go up by an exponential factor as time goes on. See a kid who’s gonna be a problem? Stomp on the issue right away and set the expectation for consequences

Once you have that respect in the first few days, feel free to be yourself

Like teachers always say “don’t let them see you smile until October”
 
Remember, today is not the day to win their friendship. Today is the day to lay down the law and expectation that you are the alpha and to be respected.

Any shit you tolerate today will go up by an exponential factor as time goes on. See a kid who’s gonna be a problem? Stomp on the issue right away and set the expectation for consequences

Once you have that respect in the first few days, feel free to be yourself

Like teachers always say “don’t let them see you smile until October”

100% true.
 
Remember, today is not the day to win their friendship. Today is the day to lay down the law and expectation that you are the alpha and to be respected.

Any shit you tolerate today will go up by an exponential factor as time goes on. See a kid who’s gonna be a problem? Stomp on the issue right away and set the expectation for consequences

Once you have that respect in the first few days, feel free to be yourself

Like teachers always say “don’t let them see you smile until October”
Thanks for the advice. Yeah, I’ve got 17+ years of leadership in the Army. One of my last jobs was as an Infantry First Sergeant. Trust me, I know how to gain respect and when/when not to reward and punish.
 
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